I loved the pale pink leotard that hugged my six-year-old self,
and even more, the stiff pink tutu worn on special occasions,
though my little body tottered not only when I rose to my toes
but standing flat-footed, or walking, or running. I could and did
trip over obstacles, real and imagined, which was one reason
my mother took me to the ballet studio. There I began to learn
that I could be not particularly good at something to love it.
I’ve been practicing grace ever since. Not just in my unsteady
self that had, as a wise older friend told a 20-something me,
“not yet decided to stay” in my body. I resolved to stay, and have.
But grace, I’ve learned, is not only about the “-ful” bit, about
refinement of movement or courteous goodwill, or offering thanks,
but also about blessings constantly bestowed upon us for free,
for no good reason, because of the generosity of the spirit
of the universe. So that every time I totter and sometimes fall,
when I am caught and held safe, the words “thank you” cross
my mind and lips, which the little pink tutu’d ballerina likely
did not say often enough to her mother and father, to the little
sister who, too young for ballet class, stood in the doorway
learning all the steps her big sister struggled with. And so I say
again, to all of them, those beloveds here and gone, to the great
spirit that made us all, thank you. Thank you so very much.
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Thanks to Micah Darden for this wonderful line that inspired the title of this poem.
He was one of ten people who spoke on March 22, 2026, at the Unitarian Universalist
Society of Sacramento service, reflecting on Mary Oliver’s phrase “Your wild and
precious life,” from her poem, “The Summer Day.”












