For years, men did this for me—
my father, my husband, my partner.
I’d blame it on my weak upper body.
I can’t dig a hole for spit, especially
in the clay that masquerades as soil
in my back yard. And that’s true.
But when the dead squirrel appeared
on the deck as I cleaned up around
the downed pot, mysteriously broken,
that had gently cradled Dick’s
mother’s ficus for so many years,
I imagined a wild chase between
predator and prey that resulted in
the ends of two living things.
The ficus I could resurrect, plop into
a new pot, but the squirrel, I realized
upon closer examination, was long
dead, really more of a flattened pelt.
I ran through the list of hole-diggers
I might summon and decided to give
it a go myself, watering the hardpan
by the north fence for a while, letting
the water simmer and sink. Then,
taking up the small shovel and,
with no thought for my newish
lavender tennies, I began to dig.
You could, Clifford whispered,
just put it in a plastic bag, Toots.
Then in the garbage can, my father
echoed. But I remembered each
of them digging a spot in different
back yards to bury the dead things:
a beloved pet—usually a cat—or
sometimes a bird fallen from the sky
or a snake stopped in mid-slither
with tender placement, tucking it
gently into a blanket of soil. Did this
sprawled squirrel deserve any less?
So I muddied my shoes and applied
my sole to the shovel, digging slowly,
working around roots, not very deep,
but enough, setting the creature to rest,
an impromptu Day of the Dead ceremony
a few days early, a small blessing
for the remembered
from the rememberer.


What a beautiful piece Jan! You made me cry with this. xoxo
Awww! Thank you, dear Sue!
gorgeous and tender. I’m going to email you the poem I wrote this morning. Like minds, similar themes.
Wow! I love when that happens! Thanks, Amrita, for this kind comment and your poem!
A kind, thoughtful and reverent gesture, Jan! I would have done the same, though the ground here is pretty frozen at the moment, so. . . . MAYBE I would have delayed the squirrel memorial service a few days. I also would have to carry water because I have turned off my sprinkling system. I also might have changed my shoes for more traction. Hmmmm! Maybe the plastic bag with a flower or two placed inside would be an option. Regardless – honoring life is always a good thing in my book! Thanks for sharing! Love, ~Connie
Thank you, Connie! I should’ve changed my shoes, for sure! I’ll remember that idea of flowers in a plastic bag the next time…