
(for Margery Thompson)
I first made your mother’s custards
for your mother some 26 years ago
in her last year of her life—
her faithful recipe neatly inked
onto the 3×5 card that you gave me
after she died. Easy, you said.
I, one of the cooking impaired,
asked my best friend how to scald
the milk, which is when she—
a good cook herself—delivered
one of her funniest lines:
How do you feed yourself?
Not with scalded milk, I retorted.
You patiently explained the simple
process, and I delightedly presented
my first custards in your mother’s
1950s milk-colored Pyrex cups to her,
which she praised as if I had brought
her Baked Alaska (what alchemy
it must take to bake ice cream!).
Her eyes closed as the first spoonful
reached her mouth—just as yours
did today when I delivered a pink cup
of custard to you in the hospital,
the very definition of comfort food
from your mama through me to you,
her adored daughter, who has
fed me and friends and family for
decades, who has taught me more
than a thing or two about food.
And as I stood next to you of little
appetite, watching your face fold into
into contentment as you savored
every bit of custard, spooned the
little pink bowl clean, I confessed
my haphazard application of
cinnamon on top. In between bites,
you, my cooking coach, gently suggested
how to avoid clumping the next time,
which made us both grin, knowing
how eager I was to head back
to the kitchen and give it a try.


Hi, Jan:
The recipe card on which your mother-in-law wrote her custard recipe was the same charming design of the cards my mom used. She sent me off to college in 1973 with a handful of blank ones, knowing I’d need a way to write down the dishes I was bound to enjoy cooking the most once I left home. She picked them up at Woolworth’s in Roseville Square. I still have a few blank ones, saving them for some occasion when I’ll need to add to my collection–or share with a neighbor or relative.
The memories made me smile!
Terry