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Now there is no going in or going out.
Now there is just here, the final here.

Now there is where she hasn’t wanted
to go. Where a week ago, traveling between

here and gone, pairs of unfamiliar eyes
and the face of a cat danced before hers.

Scary, she said then, through wet butterfly
lashes, seeking reassurance from us as

we used to seek hers when, as children in
this house, we’d awaken scared in the night,

pad down the hall to their room where we
would whisper over her sleeping form,

I had a bad dream. She’d murmur,
It’s just a dream. Go back to sleep.

We would stand, trembling, not wanting
to return to the slender bed alone,

though we did, for a moment,
to retrieve pillow and blanket

to bed down on the floor next to her.
Tonight as she sleeps in the family room,

still breathing but not awakening,
we will sleep in the same room with her.

We hold her hand, saying what we wanted
to hear: It’s OK. You’re safe. We love you.

Fly now, butterfly. You can go.
Fly on home.

It’s hard work, this love
no matter what anyone says.
—Louise Glück

•••

No one tells you that,
besides all the little things
the dying need help with,
it’s hard work tending
the one on her way,

the one who will not
give up, give in, even as
her bright light fades,
determined to go on, even as
her body has other ideas.

You’re here to focus on her,
but scenes from growing up
in this house flicker like the end
of an old film, as you sit this vigil,
keep watch by night in this season
of waiting.

You want to pray and sing and
praise. You want to be a lantern
of encouragement, as you wipe
and adjust, bring water, bring pills,
try to comfort the uncomfortable.
You tend to that which can no
longer be easily contained or
flushed or ignored.

Until, after weeks of agitation,
she falls silent. And the colors
of waiting now take on a more
muted hue.

It’s the height of indignity,
this dying after a long life,
this love, but you have said yes
to the witnessing, the tending,
this most important work,

some of the very heartest
that you—and she—
will ever do.

When it’s cool and sunny,
heading toward the end of the year.
Everything in place. Having had
one last vanilla shake, eyes closed,
relishing the creaminess going down
a parched throat.

Trees still releasing the last
of their bounty, some already
bare, their slender limbs reaching,
always, for the blue.

It’s a good day to die, as our friend
the obituary writer used to say when he
had lots of space to fill in the newspaper,
so he could give people a really good
sendoff.

Just look at this world—
calm and bright, clean and light.
And look, just there, through the veil,
you can see the smiling eyes
of those who wait,

friendly beings, who, on a slight
whoosh of breeze, extend their arms,
waving, who look so happy to greet you.

I wish I understood the beauty
in leaves falling. To whom
are we beautiful
as we go?

—David Ignatow, from “Three in Translation”

This leaving is not pretty.
We see it every fall—the browning,
the brittling, the green sucked
from what only months ago
was supple and vibrant.

Some showoffs glisten crimson;
the ginkgo fans go gold, but to us
they are beautiful.

To whom are we beautiful as we go?

Not remotely who we once were,
we desiccate before the eyes
of loved ones, who would rather
look away, who hate watching
the suffering that comes with
the ending of a life.

We cannot blame them, but
still, we look for the one who
long ago found us beautiful,
who adored us, the one who
late at night whispered,

“Come to bed now,”
the one who held the sheet
open, a waiting angel,
eager to envelop us in
those voluminous wings.

And we went. We went
and went again—
so happy to be loved
like that.

•••

(With thanks to poet Marie Howe for her inspiration.)

Before you go,
what would you
like to hear?

Certainly some
good barbershop
harmony sung

by strong voices
like yours used
to be, and his.

Maybe a bit of
John Denver,
whose songs

you played again
and again on the
eight-track tapes

in the car—taking
you home down
country roads—

in your own
traveling jukebox
on wheels.

And I would play
you blackbird
singing in the dead

of night, your
late-in-life affection
for the Beatles

coinciding with
mine. Take these
broken wings…

You’re closer now,
You who are only
waiting for this

moment to arise.
It’s closer now.
We both feel it

as a new day
gentles the sky,
as birds we

can’t see sing
outside the
windows

in trees baring
themselves
for winter.

She’s a 74-year-old gal who’s
just laid an egg—literally—

on an island called Midway
in the middle of the sea where

her kind fly in to do just that—
have babies. Wisdom seems

to have outlived three mates,
this albatross whom humans

wait to see each year,
the oldest known wild bird,

who has birthed more than
30 chicks since 1956.

And if that’s not a testament to
the wisdom of a long, productive life,

to the I’m-not-done-yet spirit
of the 93-year-old mother I know

who’s not giving up, who’s
hunkering down in the nest

where she raised her young, where
she watched us fledge and fly,

before she fluffs her feathers
and takes off for parts unknown,

I don’t know what is.

(after William Carlos Williams’ “The Dance”)

(for Donna Gail)

Brightly colored gumballs fill glass-globed
dispensers that bring me to stand again
with my little sister before a row of primary
color temptations. Which one should receive our
precious pennies? What if we get a color we don’t like?
(Definitely not black!) Here we learn that,
even when not given a choice, sweetness
will appear with the simple turn of a knob,
the lift of a magical chrome door, allowing
a surprise to roll into our cupped palms.

Juicy crescent
hangs low in the inky
western sky

tempting to pop
in the mouth as hungry
winter chases

autumn’s last leaves
still hanging onto
a bit of sweetness

before the fall

(for Dickie, for whom I am most gratitudinous,
on this 35th anniversary)

Grateful are the rich in spirit,
we who remember that our cups overflow,
that our lungs breathe without instruction
or command, that our way has been paid,
our paths paved by some we know
and many we do not. The great miracle
is that we are not from nothing—
we are part of something and ever shall be.

We are held.

We say thank you in a thousand ways
—some of them audible—
your generous heart overflowing
into mine until blood and corpuscle meld,
the rhythmic ebb and flow, the synthesis
of give and take indistinguishable
from just a you or just a me.

We, grateful witnesses to this process
of living and breathing, loving and dying,
embody this fusion of humanity,
this circle of beloveds.

We abide in this amalgam of us.

noun:
1. The quality of being true;
2. Something that is true: a universally accepted truth.

•••

A universally accepted truth,
much as amen means truly

or so be it. Which is the tricky
thing about faith—

not being able to prove truth
but having the quality of being

true. More truth-full, perhaps,
as in thou art with me,

you whom I cannot see
but who, when you lived

and walked and breathed,
were true to me, you loyal

and constant one. As you are yet,
a verity in my life—

you and you and you who have
vanished into mystery with

the gods and goddesses, the
angels and enlightened beings.

Can that be? Ah, yes. All of
you the forever faithful,

I still the beloved.
Truly. Amen.